My parents have a great marriage. But I was so non-feminine, and all my idols were either male, or warrior women like Eowyn or Belphebe. I wanted to grow up and be the first woman to play The Doctor.
And I thought Faramir would be the perfect kind of guy. Someone who was smart and knew his own mind, and yet wanted me to be happy and make my own decisions. But guys like that are pretty much invisible in our culture. They exist, but the Patriarchy is very uncomfortable with heterosexual men who don't seek dominance. (I can explain that in less jargon-ish terms, because it's not as extreme as it might sound if you don't hang out on feminist sites a lot).